2020-09-14
In need of advice: family-in-law & infertility
Hey Ned and Ariel, love the podcast! Always looking forward to the next Sunday because of you! :)
I’m in need of some advice:
I’m a 22y old student, and though I graduated this year, I have decided to continue studying (If possible, I’d go for a PhD). But my parents-in-law have made it pretty clear that they want me to get a ‘real’ job, and they expect grandchildren in the next two years or so. I have already told them that I cannot have children ‘the easy way’, but they keep saying that ivf is always an option.
My boyfriend and I know that, obviously, but after the many hospital visits to get diagnosed with infertility, we’re not sure IF we even WANT children.
Now that my sisters-in-law recently gave birth to a baby boy (and a second one on the way), they keep giving subtle hints that we should also have children. I’m so tired of this that I don’t even bother explaining why my education is so important to me, explaining the infertility or even explaining that we maybe don’t want children at all...
BUT THE PRESSURE IS SO REAL!
Have you ever had this feeling? Also, how do I deal with my parents-in-law?
Lots of kudos,
Melissa